Kingston Changed My Marriage . . .

. . . for the better! 

In two and half short weeks, I can say that my marriage and relationship with my husband is 100% better than it ever has been. 

 We work better as a team. 

CT is so hands on with Kingston and it truly is the biggest blessing to have someone do everything with me. From bath times to diaper changes and from me feeding and he finishing off with the burping - everything we do wit Kingston is together. CT helps out around the house or if I need something when I'm unable to do things because I'm needed by the baby. It really is the best feeling in the world to work together as a team.  

 We communicate so much better. 

We haven't raised our voices. We haven't been rude to each other. We consider the other persons opinions and views on each subject. I know it's because we are now thinking of more then just ourselves. The things we disagreed on before Kingston was born (daycare, etc.) we now have total different views on and we were able to discuss things as 'adults'. Becoming parents has really made us mature in how we communicate. 

I'm sure there are a lot more things that have changed and I'm sure things aren't always going to be this easy - but it's a good feeling. CT and I have been together going on our 8th year and I think things can only continue to get better from here.  

I love our family we have created and I am truly so thankful that God has given me a man that wants nothing more then to be an amazing father. It makes my duty as a wife and mother so much more rewarding and doable with the extra help and encouragement from my husband. 

I continue to fall more in love with this man as the days go on. 

On This Day . . .

On this day three years ago . . . 

I was waking up in a hotel room with some of my closest friends - my bridesmaids! 

I was getting ready for the biggest day of my life - equipped with my own one woman glam squad. 

I was preparing myself to walk down the aisle and give myself to one man, my best friend, for the rest of my life before God and our family and friends. 

I was welcoming and being welcomed into a new family. 

I was celebrating in my favorite dress, under the fireworks, with 300 of our closest friends and family (some which were starved because we ran out of food). 

I was becoming Mrs. Trotter. 

On this day two years ago . . . 

I was celebrating my first anniversary with my hottie husband by eating a replica top tier of our wedding cake and spending an extra long weekend in St. Louis watching the Cardinals. 

On this day one year ago . . . 

I was with miles high with my husband heading to NYC to check something off the pre-baby bucket list. Yankees game, Mets game, world trade center, china town, Brooklyn bridge, Jersey Shore, Time Square. 

Today . . . 

I will be spending a whole day with my baby daddy doing a few of our most favorite things. Lunch at one of our go-tos, massages and a movie. We will probably end the evening catching up on some DVR'd shows eating a brownie and/or bomb pops. 

Time has flown and I can't believe we have been married 3 years already. 

I love you CT and I can't wait to experience so many more years with you! 

Flashback Friday: I said Y-E-S!

6 years ago today I said yes to being CT's girlfriend. We had met in August of 2007 but I made him stay in the 'friend zone' for a few months. 

I previously wrote about my fairytale: how we met and I can't believe how far we have come. 

From strangers to best friends.

From neighbors to roommates. 

From friends to boyfriend & girlfriend.

From fiancés to husband & wife. 

Our journey is only 6 years completed and I can't wait to see what the next 60 years brings us. 

Where you go, I’ll go. Where you stay, I’ll stay. Your people, my people and your God – my God. 
Ruth 1:16

Weekly Inspiration [8]: When Commitment Meets Challenge

Last month CT and I attended a marriage conference. We thought this would be an awesome opportunity to keep things fresh and be pro-active in our marriage!

I have been recapping the various sessions the last few Sundays. 

Check out To Love & To Cherish and God's Design for Marriage to catch up!

1 Corinthians 7:28 states that you will face trouble in your marriage.

 Everyone does.

When two people are bound together in marriage, the problems of human nature are then multiplied. 

Everyone goes through crisis.  

In your life you are:

going through it

coming through it

or almost to it

Most crisis are caused by changes. 

Time

Distance

Desire 

Just remember, these are season's and they will pass. 

Romans 12:12 states that we need to rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, and be constant in prayer. 

I think if you take that verse right there, and apply it to your marriage only good things can happen! 

The two most important things I took away from this weekend conference were:

1) that marriage isn't something you find, it's something you work for

2) marriage is not primarily about finding the right spouse, but being the right spouse  

Weekly Inspiration [6] - God's Design for Marriage

This past weekend, CT and I attended a marriage conference at our church. No we don't have marital problems, there's just no time like the present to be proactive! It was four hours on Friday night and four hours on Saturday morning, and I feel so renewed and reenergized with our marriage.

God's Design for Marriage

Genesis 2 states that God created marriage to fix a problem, not to create one.

Once married - Who we chose is ultimately who God chooses for us.

 Regardless of the situation, you are married to the right person. 

Our goal should be to love the one we are with. 

It's not about finding the 'right' person {because no one is perfect}, but loving the one you are with. 

We need to work on and strive to love like Christ. 

Being a good husband and wife is a choice we make. 

We need to choose to focus on the positive, commit to no plan B {no divorce}, and we need to take action in our marriage. 

Have you invested in your marriage lately? 

You have to work at what you love.